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Brick created on 02/02/2008 @ 18:09

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I finally had time to step on the bricks of two other "brick makers" today. I was reminded that I am not the only one who has two faces. My sister was not the only one to have two faces.

What we feel inside and what we present to the world are often two vastly different things. I'm left wondering...

Should the inside and outside be the same? Should those around us really know what our insides are really thinking and feeling? My hunch is no but then, my feelings...truest feelings...are insanely private. And finally, if more people shared their most private thoughts, could we battle our demons together and overcome? We build walls here but, in reality, therapists work hard at teaching us to breakthrough our walls brick by brick. Which is right? Who does not have demons that need bricks to keep them at bay?

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  • 03/02/2008 @ 11:50 meeee said
    meeee

    This brick is wonderfully enlightening and depressing at the same time. To think of all the horrible things that go on in the world and so many people choose to fight those deamons alone ... I personally think that the outside and the inside should not be the same but should be able to exist in harmony. If the inside is hurting then the outside should know it needs help. How many times we know deep down inside something is wrong and it takes us forever to understand what that is? It is a never ending battle but if we could fight it all together i think it would be easier. At least for me, just being able to share what is on my mind and get feedback has helped imensly... i've gotten places that would have taken me months to get if i were fighting alone! Good luck at fighting your deamons and i'm here to join in your battle if you need me (:
    *Hugs Meeee*

  • 04/02/2008 @ 07:58 roze said
    roze

    This is an amazing brick - and why do i feel like i know where that image comes from? I feel we need spaces in which to share what is going on inside of us - and i find an anonymous space very helpful to do that. Also i have found that simply putting my feelings on a brick helps a lot and if i want to keep those really private i post anonymously!!

  • 04/02/2008 @ 10:47 WillAlwaysWonder said
    WillAlwaysWonder

    You have probably seen that brick before, Roze. It really IS a brick - an old, old one. Postinging anonymously, hmm. I guess that would be kind of double anonymously, huh? Interesting, but I'd feel I'd be cheating myself out of help or something. But it's a great idea. Why didn't I think of that??

    Meee, some things just hit me about myself and I understand. But, it's funny for as much counseling as I've had (most of it the wrong kind of therapy until recently) I turned over every stone in my life trying to understand what I was feeling and why I was feeling it. I'll tell my better half I feel "this way" about something only to nor REALLY tell them days/weeks/months later because I couldn't understand what was right - what I was showing on the outside or what I was feeling on the inside.

    I remember my mother telling me if I'd "just look prety and just look happy" I would be and I just cring at when I hear stuff like that today. I think for some of us our outter selves are such a huge mirror for our innerl

    You are right in that the feedback helps! Between you and Roze and reading some of the other bricks, it's opened my eyes a little and made me think about working out of the grive and other lowly feelings I have. We'll take up arms together and fight the beasts. (( Meeee ))

  • 04/02/2008 @ 10:54 roze said
    roze

    Together we will fight the beasts. I have found therapy quite helpful - not because it has essentially revealed anything that i did not know myself but more because i have made some new connections and had some amazing insights. One that wiped me away was when i was talking about how people view me as very strong and almost hard - and my therapist said 'it's easy to mistake brittle for hard' - it made me weep - i would have found that so helpful years ago! I am so enjoying talking with you both.

  • 27/03/2008 @ 12:32 KnightOwl said
    KnightOwl

    Does anybody really smile without a mask?

  • 28/03/2008 @ 10:55 NeedMotivation said
    NeedMotivation

    Strangely, had I seen this brick when it was first posted, it would not have touched me so much. Now, in the midst of the worst breakup of my life, I am amazed at how true it is. Apart from my family and closest friends, no one knows. I go around with a smile on my face while I am crying on the inside. I am watching this relationship fall apart and I am powerless to stop it. I love him so much, but he isn't sure he loves me anymore. He is such a huge part of my life, yet he is ready to let me go. I feel powerless and heartbroken, but tonight I have to go out to a friend's party and act the friendly happy girl that I generally am. I am not normally depressed, and now that I am, I'm not sure how to cope with it. Wish I could wear your brick on my t-shirt!!

  • 28/03/2008 @ 14:15 roze said
    roze

    Hey NeedMotivation - sounds like life is rough for you at the moment. Want to talk more about what is happening for you - you can cry on the outside here - and there are a lot of shoulders that will be there for you. You know true friends will want to know what is happening for you - try not to wear a smile on the pain - it is our fragility that connects us. hugs roze

  • 31/03/2008 @ 15:59 NeedMotivation said
    NeedMotivation

    Thanks Roze. I appreciate your comments. I suppose the reason I'm sad is that the shoulder I used to believe would always be there for me is no longer there. I guess I am lucky in that I have people in my life with whom I can talk, but the thing is, the only person I really want to be able to talk to is no longer in my life. Sad, huh?

  • 16/08/2008 @ 11:24 karens26 said
    karens26

    I think we have all been where you are, NeedMotivation. Its hard to lose someone.
    But its a good chance to look inside yourself and get reconnected with yourself...all the best and its a beautiful brick...

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