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• 19/07/2008 @ 20:24 roze said

  

  Not so easy yesandno. To be honest i believe letting go is the hardest hardest thing to do in life. So you are not fucked up - more caught up - as most of us are - with holding on to stuff that is better released. I have come to believe that the only way you can really have something in your life is to be able - in every moment - to let it go. Hugs roze

• 19/07/2008 @ 20:33 Overseas said

  

  What are these things ? Are you in any way responsible about/for them ? Can you do anything to change them right now ? If yes, act now. If they are not of/under your own responsibility, just accept it and put these "things" aside and don't allow your thoughts to drift towards them. Be on your guard, "old" habits are tough to change. Good luck. O.

• 20/07/2008 @ 12:13 UMxx said

  

  Hi Wakemeup,
  I got so used to people telling me how I needed to "let things go" but it was not a process I could understand. In fact I used to torture myself trying to work out in my mind how I was to let things go.

  I was talking to my buddhist meditation coach - I told her that I could not grasp the meaning of "to let go" and she told me this.

  IN some of the ancient translations, the words to let go were used and in others the words "to let them be". When thoughts or memories would arise in my thinking and I was conscious that I was unable to deal with them she talked about noticing the feelings or memories and acknowledge they are there but to leave them there until I was ready to deal with them.

  She used the analogy of sword making - that many firings make the strongest sword. Partly it was permission for me not to immerse myself in memories and feelings but to recognise and acknowledge them. It was to wait and let them be until I felt that I was able to be able to have an encounter with them. And this was a staged process taking many months. Once I was used to letting them be - to allow them to be present and not have the sense of being overwhelmed by feeling I must engage with them or must fight them it became easier to see what they were. My memories and experiences were part of my past. And I had great support from my shrink who continued to work with me in this way.

  I am sorry this is a ramble but I hope it helps in some ways explain how I find myself developing some positive practice of letting things be. UM xx