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• 23/10/2008 @ 22:01 mooge said

  

  Hello ecogeek, sounds like some complicated dynamics going on between your family and step family. It seems really tough. I get a sense of disappointment, anger and frustration from reading your brick. I was wondering if you also feel a little left out of things with your dad and your step family?

  I was thinking whether sending a card to your dad is what you really want to do or is it something you are doing to please your brother?

  I'm not sure if I've understood you correctly when you say you have been trying to fix this relationship sinece you were12. Is that the relationship with your dad? That sounds like a long time and that the effort is mainly coming from you rather than a mutual meeting half way. Very best wishes, mooge.

• 04/11/2008 @ 23:33 EcoGeek said

  

  Hi I thought I'd answer a few of your questions (very delayed reaction but its a touchy subject to me)

  I do often feel like I was replaced by my step mother which i guess would seem a childish view but now she lives with my dad and I never see him.

  I sent him a birthday card because my relationship (or lack of it) with my dad is a source of upset to my brother. I do things like this to try to make things easier for him (and also i suppose to show him that I'm being the mature on out of my dad and myself)

  And yes the relationship i've been trying to fix is the one between me and my dad, yes it has been a long time im 19 now.

  I feel like I want to give up on him but I don't know how...

  Also I had dinner with my uncle (my dads brother) the other day I hadnt seen him since I was 12. It was a lovely event and was also reassuring that he told me he felt my dad had let me down by his approach to parenting.
  

• 06/11/2008 @ 08:58 mooge said

  

  Hello EcoGeek,

  I am sorry to hear what has happened between you and your dad. It sounds like you had a really good time with your uncle. Will you see again?

  I wonder if you feel furious with your dad? Take good care, mooge

• 06/11/2008 @ 10:16 EcoGeek said

  

  Hi mooge,

  Thanks yeah it was great to see my uncle again and I will be seeing him again (although its strange as he looks so much like my dad but he acts nothing like him)

  Interesting question, I think i used to feel furious at my dad but its exhausting keeping up that kind of anger so nowadays I get odd bursts of anger which usually converts to sadness when I realise that nothing I do will change the situation.

• 12/11/2008 @ 18:23 mooge said

  

  yeah - I can relate to that too, although I never even used to feel my anger but now I do and tell myself that I am to digest/process it a little. I was wondering if there's some feelings of disappointment there too?
  Take good care, mooge