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• 11/10/2008 @ 20:33 Swon said

  

  So, why did your mum take you there, she must have been worried about you? If she cared enough to drag you to the hospital then of course she cares about you, loves you even.

  
  So how do you repay this love? You lie to avoid difficult questions and the best you can get out of it is a week off school - do yourself and your mum a big favour - admit up to whatever problems you have and get some professional help and trust me - no-one ever died from reading a book.

• 11/10/2008 @ 20:34 Wolfie said

  

  yesandno, its good to see you back after you time away..... So, how did it go? What did you learn? you mentioned that you learnt a bit, can you build on what you learnt? Wxx

• 11/10/2008 @ 20:52 yesandno said

  

  my mom took me there because she is too frightened to admit that SHE actually might BE the problem. It's disgusting how much shit she puts me through. E.g. two minutes ago my exgirlfriend called and my mom picked up the same time I did (we have two phones) I told her to hang up and she did. Then I was talking to my ex and I saw that my mom was listening to our conversation. I confronted her and she told me I was insane. When I told my ex 'my mom is listening to us on the phone' I heard the other phone click. I'm furious, she always does this - she never admit her faults. I hate my life, I'm the same as before, I really am. I learnt how people work, for the most part. I learnt that they need survival, love & belonging, fun, shit like that. I learnt to start loving myself and accept the fact that no one is perfect anyway so it's okay to have faults. I learnt that I should try to be more approachable. But whatever, it's going all down the drain. I think I might have to live somewhere else, this isn't healthy for neither of us...
  

• 11/10/2008 @ 21:38 mooge said

  

  Hello yesandno, I haven't written to you before but your brick caught my attention. It sounds like your mum invaded your privacy with the phone conversation with your ex - why do you think she did that (and I don't mean by realising this it makes it right for what your mum did). It is enraging!

  It seems like you realised loads from being at the hospital but its difficult to hold on to once back at home when things are back to ordinary. I often go through a cycle of wanting to change and realising I'm still the same person as I was before but then I come to the point that maybe understanding and accepting myself eventually leads to the changes which I am craving. Keep going with your realisations, they sound remarkable. Take care, mooge.

• 12/10/2008 @ 01:57 LoquaciousRJ said

  

  hey there yesando..

  i am so sorry you're going through this..but at least you learned something while you were there. i can't believe my mom actually doing that to me, i think it's unhealthy for both of you, but i think moving away somewhere else won't be the best solution, why not talk it over with her? maybe she has a reason behind her acting that way.. maybe she's just concerned about you and cares about you...but just so you know, whatever you're going through right now we're with you ever step of the way, and we care for you. so don't ever give up trying to live life in this miserable world. you're not alone. take care always!!! (:

  lots of hugs and love,,.

  RJ

• 12/10/2008 @ 09:06 Swon said

  

  Hi again yesandno,

  Can I start by saying sorry for the tone of my original post, it was written in a bit of a hurry and, having re-read it now, it sounds a bit harsh, it was not meant that way so I apologise.

  What I was trying to say, and others have now alluded to it already, is that whatever your mum is doing, she is almost certainly doing because she worries about you - that's what parents do when they love their kids.

  OK I agree her methods might not be the best in the world and it's easy to see how annoying you would find that. However, confrontation with your mum or leaving home is not likely to be the answer.

  
  If you leave it could put a rift between you that will take longer to repair the longer you stay away.

  Confrontation very rarely solves anything to everyone's satisfaction so what I would really advise is that you try to talk to her in a calm and controlled way, ask her why she's doing it and explain how you feel.

  One last thing, please don't turn it into a point-scoring exercise and do be prepared go give a little. If you go in all guns blazing insisting that you get your own way 100% then I doubt you will be too successful.

  Good luck, I wish you well.

  
  Swon

• 16/10/2008 @ 19:31 yesandno said

  

  mooge: thanks for being so kind. we sound very similar in the sense that we both seek change but end up coming short and then thinking and realizing that it might be ourselves we need to find.

  loquaciousRJ: thanks for the consideration. i've talked to my mom but it's come to the point where i can't tell her anything because she always backstabs me. i'm not sure who to talk to because i've always been sort of a 'loner' and the few friends i have are back in the old city i lived in.

  swon: don't worry about it, it was a good post - it did make me realize that i am blowing this out of proportion. i guess i've sort of given up hope, i really have. nothing seems to go my way and i try to not even put effort into anything anymore. my exgirlfriend told me that it's the depression but honestly, i think i've been using my problems as an excuse for my lack of motivation and laziness.

  xo to all of you
  yesandno