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• 25/09/2008 @ 20:08 roze said

  

  Hey, I hope sounds like a tough day. If you want to talk more you can reply anonymously. Take care, roze

• 25/09/2008 @ 21:54 UMxx said

  

  Hey freckles,

  I from australia and I am pretty sure that this is a safe place - no one knows us.

  Heaps of crap going on in your life and it isn't exactly an uncomplicated life that you have - and it sounds like you have done well to make the best of what you have started with.

  I don't think you go on at all - but I remember feeling like that when I first started talking about my own stuff it really confused me because it all came spewing out - a great rush and a great volume and then I got all wobbly. How you sound and I guess that is the only insight into what you feel - well it was sure that way for me - and for other people that I have met on here - well I think it was that way too.

  We have a lot in common - lots of us are survivors of one or more crises in our lives and we keep getting up and living our lives - at least here we have each other.

  If you are feeling really exposed out here - then I am okay if you want to pm me. I am going to work soon - but will check in on my account at work. Just as long as you know that there is someone eh?

  We all do better by supporting each other - and this place has done more to help me than I can make sense of sometimes - I wonder if I would bother keeping on going except for the support I have found here.

  And don't worry about how well those words flow - I am a bit wordy myself and it is a good thing to help all of the stuff we feel inside to come out. UM xx

• 25/09/2008 @ 22:14 UMxx said

  

  Hey freckles a pm is a personal message - you can click on my name - it will take you to my profile and up the top on the right there is a button to push which says "send message" follow the prompts and I will get your message.

  Don't feel guilty about feeling low or bothered - hey that's what makes us human - they are real for us - and they part of the real lives we lead.

  keep in touch eh?

  Um xx

• 25/09/2008 @ 22:21 Brown Bear said

  

  UM is suggesting that you can send her a Private Message [PM]. Just click on her name and you will be taken to her profile page. Next to her name are two buttons. Click on 'Send Message', then type away in the box. If its a long message be aware that they can sometimes get lost, so its best to draft it in a notepad or in Word, then copy and paste it into the box.
  

• 25/09/2008 @ 22:33 freckles said

  

  Thank you Brown Bear-I'm slowly getting to know my way around and the shorthand that is used!slowly.
  I shall take heed of the long message suggestion-I can tend to write long messages, thanks again.

• 26/09/2008 @ 05:54 roze said

  

  Freckles, you have had a lot to deal with in life and I can see how your present situation can feel quite trapping - where you have lost sight of you - it is hard to take care of yourself or even value yourself when a lot that you have learned somehow undermines your love of self. Try not to feel worried about writing everything down - we all feel a bit exposed when we first try to capture in words what is happening in our lives. And yes there are many here who feel like you do. I sometimes think quite a number of us come to The Wall to try to make sense of who we have become. And it is an extraordinary experience as we encounter a lot of support and warmth and encouragement that is often lacking elsewhere in life.

  And bringing up children alone - particularly when a child is disabled - reinforces isolation and putting self on the back burner. I read that you want to get out of the place that you are in. And i wonder if volunteering is a helpful route as you already give so much care in life. Perhaps it is time to find something that is more nurturing of and for you.

  Thinking of you and hoping we can talk some more. Love roze

• 26/09/2008 @ 22:44 freckles said

  

  hello roze and thank you for understanding-I know I have got worse the last few years and it has made me think everything in my past is wrong.
  I think it has been more recent I have become isolated and withdrawn. You are right that volunteering may take more out of me-I just think I should do something for me, get me active and mixing socially. I should join a gym and try going for walks or gardening-just to get out of the house and sunlight!
  I kind of blurted everything out yet now I don't know what think.
  Thanks for thinking of me-x

• 30/09/2008 @ 19:47 roze said

  

  I am still thinking of you. I find walking really helps - if i walk my mood lightens with each step. Even if the weather is bad. Joining a gym may work too - so long as it feels like enjoyment and not a chore. As for gardening - the most cathartic experience of all. Love roze