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• 22/04/2008 @ 17:19 UMxx said

  

  Dear maggieslot, - hello I think you are new - I hope you find a comfortable place here on the wall.

  It sounds like you are in a lot of pain at the moment - and really have a lot on your plate - I can send you a hug from me - but somehow we need you husband to be with you during this time. Have you any ideas?

  Here's the ((hug))) UM x

• 22/04/2008 @ 17:41 zorro said

  

  Hiya Maggieslot, and welcome too to big white wall, its great to have you here.
  UM is right, it really does sound like you have a lot on your plate - plus it sounds like you are really isolated, I sense that you are on your own a lot? Can you talk to your husband about how much pressure you are feeling at the moment? When you say your business 'intrudes on the perfect life the other person wants' what does this mean?
  Here and listening, and have one from me too! (((HUG)))
  Zorro xx

• 22/04/2008 @ 17:50 UMxx said

  

  Sorry Maggiesplace - I imagined up a new name for you and poor Zorro got tricked into using it . I remember typing Maggiesfarm first and then correcting it - should have double checked though. :( UM

• 22/04/2008 @ 17:51 UMxx said

  

  okay I did check and now I feel like a right dill - double apologies to you and Zorro UM

• 22/04/2008 @ 19:20 maggieslot said

  

  
  Thank you unionmaid and zorro!!! thank you so much for the hugs, it means a lot. Made me feel like crying. Stupid. Yes, new to here but feel now I can vent my feelings without getting judged for it.
  We have had him home for nearly 4 years,my life seems controlled by this , but I still love him, it's not his fault.I have in this short time forgotten the password!!so maggieslot or maggiespace is now maggiespace . This is getting confusing now.!!
  Husband works and is out a lot in the evenings, so he gets stressed when things get out of hand. So he explodes then the son gets even worse. I realise it is difficult for him but they neither of them know when to stop. One makes the other worse, so it's best if he isn't around. THANK YOU FOR THE SUPPORT
  It means so much.

  .

• 22/04/2008 @ 22:51 UMxx said

  

  Oh gosh I am just so relieved I didn't irritate you into an explosion - not that it would have been a problem - the Wall is a great place to vent - you could check out some of the older TA's.

  I remember the first time that someone was nice to me on the Wall I felt like crying too - I think it is just such a relief to not feel so totally alone and isolated so please don't feel stupid.

  Here's another hug for later in case you need it (((HUG)))

  UM x
  

• 23/04/2008 @ 10:40 zorro said

  

  Ahh you welcome MaggieS (shall we just go with that??!!)
  It sounds like you need a break lady - do you manage to set aside time every day for 'you' - even if its a long bath after your boy is in bed, or some quiet reading? Or even go out 2 or 3 times a week for a walk/yoga/coffee with friends?
  You have a lot of pressure on you at the moment, its really important you handle it well or else you will only find it harder to cope.
  I hope you find a way of communicating with your husband that you are struggling, I wonder if he is struggling with your sons special needs more than he is letting on? Perhaps why he gets so frustrated? Maybe he needs to talk to you too... just a thought.
  If you do ever want something to take your mind off things, pop into the Talkabout section (blue tab at the top) - there is often good conversation happening in there with friendly 'faces'!
  In the meantime, here if you need us. Keep yer chin up :)
  Zxxx

• 23/04/2008 @ 14:21 maggieslot said

  

  Thank you for your comments. My situation is very complex. My son isn't a little boy he is all of 36 going on 6 sometimes.He has an eating disorder of the wrong kind and is now diabetic.
  He has day support 5 days a week but the mayor problem is he is very intelligent with it. We have to lock all food areas and have the freezer padlocked plus the shed where I have to store other things. He is very good at manipulation of a situation and can steal food with a blink of an eye.Then hides it in every concievable place. The trouble is my husband
  can't cope with it all so he blames me for .......Then I get stressed because he cannot say one positive thing to me. All he can see is the problem. I just want him to understand that if our son kicks off he makes it worse when he sounds off as well. That makes the situation like world war 3!!!As for respite that is a joke. We haven't had any. People say get on to the s/s but when you live in a war zone it is hard to 'get on' to s/s[social services].
  Yes, I do try and 'keep my chin ' up , as I say I would fall over if not !!
  It is a never ending problem.Thank you for your support that means a lot. xx
  

• 23/04/2008 @ 19:43 Muse said

  

  Hi maggieslot - I hope you don't mind if I just add my welcome to those of zorro and unionmaid. It's good to have you around and I hope that you find The Wall as useful as I do for exploding about the big stuff and just doing a little venting about the small stuff.

  Do join us on Talkabout too - and if there is something in particular you want to talk about, I hope you will start a new one.

  Big hug,

  Muse x