I walked in on some guys who I thought were good friends saying really harsh things about my appearance.  It's scarred me and I never feel pretty enough?  I feel like whatever I do, I'm still ugly.

There are many great things about me.  I have a great sense of humor, I have one crooked tooth that really bothers me, I write really well, I'm very open-minded, and I have more friends than I know what to do with.  I know I have a great personality because everyone tells me that, but that doesn't make me feel any more physically attractive.

I agree with Isabella, let your great qualities shine through.  Feel confident and your inner beauty will show on the outside too.  And perhaps these aren't the greatest of friends?  Try to find more genuine friends who don't focus so much on appearence.  Those friends seem a bit shallow, and maybe don't deserve your great personality!  Keep your head up, and remember your good qualities.  

Sounds as if its these so called friends who are thw ugly ones, not you. Funny how the most beautiful or handsome people in the world can become so very ugly by just the things they say. Z x

This was a hard talkabout for me because it affected me in a very personal way at a time when I'm feeling vulnerable.  

I am not an attractive woman. I used to be beautiful, but age and health issues have taken their toll. The last time she saw me my grandmother burst into tears because I've changed so much and one of my cousins didn't recognize me.  

One of the most humiliating and painful things to me is when a coworker saw a picture of me when I was younger. Here's the story: 

My love who has known me since I was 14 had a photo on his desk of me when I was younger. We were waiting for some friends to come so we could all go to dinner together and one of our coworkers saw the picture and asked who it was. When he heard it was me he burst out with "Oh my god, what happened to her? She used to be gorgeous!". Never mind that I was sitting right there.

Now having said that, do I care? Some days, yes, but mostly no. I have my strong points (pretty eyes and clear skin) and my weak points (my weight and very thin hair). What I've noticed is that how I carry myself and my personality outshine the negatives.

I still get asked out on dates. Men (and the occasional woman) still flirt with me. I'm still loved.

Everyone's outer beauty will eventually fade. One's inner beauty: personality, attitude, confidence, will always shine.

I am so sorry that this has scarred how you see yourself.

It is something that I deal with a lot too.

Whenever I go back home to my community, people whisper about me behind my back: Whoa, you gained some weight.......or, whoa, what happened to you? Why did you let yourself go?

Things of that nature.

-truth is, when I was with my ex.fiance he would fight me all the time/sent me to the hospital a lot and fractured some disks in my lower back/all of that has contributed to my weight gain, yet, nobody cared to hear anything about my life/ they just saw my weight gain and then discounted my presence.

I still feel "ugly" at times, but I've been really working hard at looking at EVERYTHING Good within me/ it's a hard process though, because I never realized how pretty I was when I was younger/and that is all everyone saw me as when I was younger, was my physical beauty.

I was going thru a lot of krazy times back then, so I didn't care how I looked/I was beat down emotionally that it never mattered.

What you have to always do though, is look at ur own beauty/find that strength and confidence within yourself and let go of those harsh words and don't let them touch your soul at all or shake you into feeling (the way they want you to)....they are superficial people who judge people on their appearances/ people you don't need in your life......You're BEAUTIFUL and once you know that nothing will ever bring you down...........