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The Wall has changed my life

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  • 16/02/2008 @ 06:09 roze said:
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    When i first started making bricks and writing on Big White Wall i was still in a very difficult place in my own life. Through others listening and what to call it - random acts of kindness by strangers - i feel like a different person. I feel that i can express whatever is sitting inside of me and someone will hear me and respond well - so that i feel heard and valued and able to face what is happening in my life with a new confidence and hope. This morning when i woke i found someone who a number of us have been talking with here had gifted me a brick - and it was such a powerful and beautiful message that i found myself in my garden with tears pouring down my face as dawn broke. And there have been others - PMs with people and conversations on their bricks and on their issues that have helped me look at my life differently. And now i have some friends - and some like s1 and Brown Bear and Bill who  i feel like i have known my whole life - and with whom i have shared so much. I have many friends offline but this is something different, And i realise that i would hope that everyone who comes here finds what i have - unconditional listening, love and support - for all that we struggle with offline - to help find a place in that offline world where we feel  stronger and more whole in who we are. I believe this is what we can offer one another with in a selfless way that shows our love for one another and the world at large. Thank you, Roze

  • 16/02/2008 @ 06:25 meandmy said:
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    Hello Roze - thank you for sharing this with all of us. As for me, its been wonderful to just scream out how i am feeling day to day here. It is truly a different world offline. If you tell someone what you are really feeling, you end up being scrutinized and criticized which is almost stigmatizing. Thank goodness for this website!! Its been wonderful meeting you Roze, you're such and understanding and pleasant person to communicate with. :-D

  • 16/02/2008 @ 08:31 ejcutter said:
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    Roze, I find myself looking forward to your contribution on any talkabout. Your contrib to "what would you say to your father" damn near brought me to tears.

    I find the wall is a good place for me, but it's you folk out there that make it so.

    Keep up the good work all of you. Your compassion, understanding and willingness to listen is refreshing in this dog eat dog world.

  • 17/02/2008 @ 05:09 mbmac96 said:
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    Your post was beautiful, Roze.  I'm new to this community and I love what I see so far! Do you have any suggestions for me to get more involved?  I made a brick so far, but I want to meet new people too, as you have.

  • 17/02/2008 @ 16:08 roze said:
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    Hello mbmac - very good to have you here. I think a great way of meeting people is to look at bricks that speak to you and comment on them; engage in talkabouts that mean something to you - or start one of your own; look at the profiles of people that catch your attention by clicking on their usernames; and send people a private message if you want to open a private conversation with them. Feels to me like there are three levels at which you can engage - very privately through PMs; openly on talkabouts or more intimately on bricks. Let us know how you get along.

  • 17/02/2008 @ 18:01 JayT said:
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    Hi roze

    What a beautiful expression and so true. I am very new in here, finding my way to the wall as, i would say, a last attempt to keep fighting. I find everything so difficult to bear at the moment, but, and this is not exaggerating, this community is somehow enabling me to continue the struggle. I thank you for your kind welcome and for all the people who have not turned their back on me in my moment of crisis. My only hope is that if or when my strength returns, I could be as empathetic as you all.

    x

  • 17/02/2008 @ 21:51 mbmac96 said:
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    Thanks for your advice Roze!  Oh and JayT, if you ever need someone to listen I'm here.  I hope things start to look up for you!!

  • 18/02/2008 @ 19:09 JayT said:
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    Thanks mbmac96 that's really kind. Take care. J

  • 18/02/2008 @ 21:52 boho said:
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    hello roze  yes i have really enjoyed reading  these posting and agree with all the kind thoughts  you are a very kind person and the wall is  a real brick in the new wall  i read a lot but cant always find the words to reply so if i move along with a snails pace and time passes i will get there.

    so thank your for your support  and blessing of 'loving kindness ' to all my new friends...:)

    boho

  • 19/02/2008 @ 00:39 el mariachi said:
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    Hey Roze,
    Thanks for sharing that with us. Kind of wish I could look at the bricks but it does funny things to my computer here if I click on them.
    It is really good that you feel you can communicate better now. It really is a fantastic support network. I still have an issue that I can talk to people and tell them what has happened but I cant communicate how what has happened is effecting me. Does that make sense ?
    Sometimes its like im to open, I can tell a complete stranger about something personal and not bat an eye lid but the minute someone asks me "and how does that make you feel" I close up. I'm not sure I could ever let people know my inner feelings though so for now this site also has been very good in that at least I can talk about incidents and some of the advice you guys give me does help me analyse my situation.

  • 20/02/2008 @ 05:17 roze said:
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    Hey el m - that is so good to here. Since you can't see the bricks i want to share something i just saw by WillAlwaysWonder which is a comment on her really powerful brick which is 'without all of our bricks The Wall would not stand'. It really caused me to pause and think just how true those words are. Each one of our emotions creates The Wall that is a loud message to the world about the importance of expressing what we feel! Thanks a lot WillAlwaysWOnder! Rx 

  • 20/02/2008 @ 07:19 here4u said:
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    i have only been aware of the big white wall for a few days, it is so good to be able to contribute and to be able to open up about personal difficulties, sometimes it is hard to find a friend who will listen, and the ones that would listen are not necessarily the ones you want to tell everything to!

  • 23/02/2008 @ 10:09 goddess_m said:
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    I only come to the wall occasionally, but whenever I do I am made to feel welcomed. I'm not sure how I came to know of the Big White Wall, but I think it came to me for a reason...it may not always help me in my times of need, but I hope I'm here when someome else needs me.

  • 12/07/2008 @ 00:17 unionmaid said:
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    I remember seeing this TA when I had been on the Wall a few days - I never posted then but often feel how important the BigWhiteWall has been for me in the last 5 months - 5 months?  It feels like I have been here for much longer than that - but I remember the day I got the gumption to join - it coincided with a significant event here in Australia.

     

    I have learnt so much here on the Wall - have struggled a bit through the learning also - I find myself thinking about who I am - am I a truer version of self here or when I am off in the real world.  It feels easier and safer to be more relaxed here about being me - I doubt some of you would recognise me in real life. It freaks me out sometimes.

     

    After the last month or so of feeling like I am splattered all over life, I am regaining a sense of form and shape and know that this is a sum of a couple of supports - therapy, friends and here on the Wall.  Well in truth - I feel closely connected with a few people here on the Wall that they are just as important as my real life friends - and my habit of using the bricks I make here and send to my psych has brought benefits too.

     

    I just wanted to say thank you to everyone for what I think has been important to enable me to go forward.

     

    UM xx 

  • 12/07/2008 @ 11:21 MeerCat said:
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    Unionmaid, your post prompted me to share something.   I have been around the wall for a little while but only started posting in the last few weeks.   For a long while I kept seeing the word UM included in posts and thought how odd but nice and informal that people are including their thinking aloud, you know, oh um, or hi um.   After a while the penny dropped that it wasn't um but UM...you.  I have to admit I felt pretty dumb!

     I see the abbreviation so often now that it just goes to show how important you have become to the wall and people on it.  When I read your posts which are full of compassion and good sense it is easy to see why.

    I guess like most of us you arrived here for your own reasons with you own needs but you certainly make a great contribution.

    Meercat x

     

  • 12/07/2008 @ 22:10 summer76 said:
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    Thanks roze for expressing your feelings about this place so beautifully. Yes I have been moved to tears on a few occasions whilst wandering the wall. Moved, humbled and invigorated at times. I find the unconditional support that is always waiting with someone and for someone truly unique.

     

     

     As I said elsewhere I was popping in and out of this site for a few days before I had the 'gumption' (Nice one um not heard that one in years) to join. But then I posted shortly after joining because the site looked so reassuring - and I was feeling BXXXX low. I was realistic about my expectations. Didnt expect to meet my guru or change overnight. But what has amazed me is the warmth emanating from this place. Thank you all.

     

     

    I have not lost hope that one day I can take some of the fortified hope and good vibes and try more of them out offline - on some new friends. I have always believed if you put people in the right environment it will bring out the best in them. Got it here in spades.

    S76X

  • 14/07/2008 @ 21:14 Brown Bear said:
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    Yes, I've been here, after a desultory start, since late last year.  I don't think the Wall has changed me or the way I relate to the off-line world but it has made a difference in that I feel I belong to something and that I have an ongoing interest in the many friends I have made here and in the 'news' that makes it so interesting.  I have come to know some people better than I know many of my off-line friends/aquaintances.  But its strange that I would probably not have the confidence to meet even those I know really well.  UM seems to have a different personality here from the one off-line.  I think I'm a wee bit more serious here than I am for real, but otherwise not very different - at least that's what I think.  I'd say its changed my life in that I have more purpose, something to work at but it hasn't changed me.

  • 16/07/2008 @ 09:08 Jomo said:
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    The wall has certainly changed my life.  I live a solitary life really, keep as quiet as I can - avoid personal interactions.  But here on the wall it is different.  I feel able to talk to people and that they will accept me and talk back, and offer words of support or constructive suggestions - or just leave their names and a few kisses on a brick.  And I feel able to offer my own words.

     

    Because of family circumstances I have not been able to come on here for nearly 10 days - and have missed it a great deal.  Coming back on tonight, and seeing familiar names is really quite warming - seeing Summer's new avatar broke me out in a big smile, and Summer, if you don't like Summer76 as a "handle" any more, change it.  Swon did, when he found one he liked better.

     

    Coming on here and seeing familiar names and avatars is like seeing a good friend walking towards you unexpectedly - makes my heart lift, and I certainly need as much help with that as I can get.

     

    So thank you all for being here; and for being such an amazing group.

     

    Love

     

    Jomo xxxxx

  • 16/07/2008 @ 13:58 calmpeace said:
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    Have just read the message posted by roze which summarizes everything I feel about this website; as previously mentioned have only been using it since Monday of this week and already I feel I know roze; wolfie as if they are permanently and unconditionally in my life.   It is making me realise that it is support, comfort and understanding that I need.

    I log on during my working day when I am struggling and what a difference it is making.  I do not care about getting into trouble logging on to the website during my working day; it is the quality of life that is important.

    This website allows us to eloquently voice all our fears, anxieties, stresses, depressions without have a judgement made; the feedback is all positive, comforting, reassuring.  Bless all your cotton socks for contributing.   Hope I can reciprocate one day  when I am out of my current black hole.

    Hugs and best wishes

    KB xxxx

  • 16/07/2008 @ 22:14 Jomo said:
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    calmpeace - I look forward to the day you come out of your black hole, too - look up, and you may see all our virtual hands reaching down to you, to give you a bunk up - take care and be safe -

    Jo  XX

  • 17/07/2008 @ 09:10 boho said:
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    thats what i love, enjoy , hunger for, is this  way we can express our self in ful rich colourful  language, straight from the heart/soul.thankyou.

    boho:)

  • 17/07/2008 @ 09:18 MeerCat said:
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    In real life I often hold back and don't reach out to others even when I can see that they might need it in case they don't like it or I say the wrong thing.   I still worry a lot about saying the wrong thing on here but I think the Wall is teaching me a bit how to reach out to others.  The positive and supportive response to everyone is so welcoming and inclusive.

    Glad I found you all

    Meercat x

  • 20/07/2008 @ 05:06 Mebenji said:
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    Let this wonder world of BWW, which we all have a hand in creating, be no insubstantial illusion which might suddenly evaporate, so that I will fall further than I ever have before....because, being her, I have risen higher than I have ever done before.

    Let the experience of meeting, being with, open to and opening up to the people all around me here, be the catalyst I have needed so long, all my life in fact, to point me to and walk with me along, what should be the wonderful journey of life...

    Let me be alive, thanks to BWW

    -Mebenji.

  • 19/08/2008 @ 03:45 [Twilight.of.the.Moon.] said:
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    Roze, I love all of the comments you leave on my bricks--they always make me feel so warm and better about myself, and I always look forward to you leaving comments. I also enjoy looking at your bricks, and I agree with what you are saying.

    Slowly, but surely, I'm definitely feeling better thanks to Big White Wall, and I am so grateful to everyone here--especially you and Unionmaid. I hope you stay on here for a long time, you are very wise. =D 

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