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  • 15/02/2008 @ 00:00 cphiecekslee said:
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    Have any of you ever felt that you were born in to the wrong world, and that you will never find a true home? In any kind of terminology, maybe you feel you should have been born in a different time period. Or a complete other world in general. Maybe you feel a little inhuman, a little fey, too wild for the world. Or that you will never succeed in the world you were born into. It could be anything that displaces you.
  • 15/02/2008 @ 05:04 roze said:
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    I imagine that most people have felt this at some time in their lives. Or maybe that is a terrible assumption and i am just a bit whacko. Let me check out some of my feelings and see if they have had similar ones. Well - when i was growing up i used to feel that i was the only person that was alive and everyone else was a robot and i was involved in a giant experiment - now that just could be everyone who was raised on a small farm in the middle of nowhere or ...... Then i spent  a lot of my late teens wishing i had been alive in the 1920s (and rich of course) with a huge collection of flapper dresses and a martini glass in my hand - but that could have just been avoidance of living in a going-nowhere town in the 1970s.......Then i guess i had quite a long time of appearing to be at home - if moving over 25 times and living in other countries counts as being at home ........Then last year - it was not so much the world outside of me that felt out of kilter but the one inside ........i felt the world wrong within me......now that took a lot more work than being in my android world or playing my part in the Great Gatsby .............but now ....i feel completely at one with the world and the world with me. And you know it is a rather beautiful place to be.
  • 15/02/2008 @ 05:32 UMxx said:
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    Absolutely.  I think I get what you are saying.  I have always felt that I was allocated to the wrong family - I just couldn't seem to see where I fit in. My sister teased me when I was about 5 that I had been a twin and the family couldn't afford two babies so they gave the other one away.  For a while the whole world made sense - I felt weird because I was was missing my twin.  After my Mum found out she told me this was just nonsense and I had never had a twin so I used to spend time knowing I was an alien on a mission to understand people and I used to sit outside on the verhandah looking for signs for someone coming to pick me up.  (Too much Dr Who perhaps?) Oddly enough my Dad used to come out and just sit there with me and after a while we would talk a little. 

    I still don't get the point of why I am here. I don't understand what we add to the world - except to create mayhem and pollution and disturbance.  We seem to do a good job of proving just how dreadful we can be to each other.  But it all feels a bit superficial and pointless - we are born, we live we die.  (I am an actively practicising aethiest) But it isn't the religious stuff that gets me  - it is always the question Why?  Why have we evolved to this point and not know what it is that we have as a purpose?

    And then, I can meet a couple of people and instantly we click and seem to be on the same wavelength and it sure feels like I am part of a broader community.  I know this sense of being so different isn't really special unique and different.  I think it is the stuff about being a little bit fey that I enjoy most - at least it feels right and I can understand where it comes from.  but yesterday I got an email from a close friend who added a note that she finds me a bit scary that I am tuned into people.  So I wasn't offended and just laughed.   At least if being different is useful, I get that as a point.  I don't feel quite the same way when the difference is ridiculed or demeaned as being too caring.  

    Anyhow I am not beyond thinking it might all be a very weird dream that has been going on for more than 40 years. 

  • 16/02/2008 @ 20:53 younger said:
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    Yep, sometimes I feel I have a complete inability to figure out what others are thinking.  I get it so very, very wrong at times. I just want to be on the same wavelength as the world and I am no.

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