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11/02/2008 @ 16:28 fuzzy said:

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I really don't know what's going on with me at the moment I'm just all over the place!On the outside I seem fine because I am an expert at bottling everything up but on the inside I feel really weird...I've become really clingy to my boyfriend and can't stand it when he is not around me (we live together) I'm scared that he is going to get fed up of my neuroticism and the constant reassurement I need and give upon me! I have such low self-esteem at the moment and the rational part of my brain knows that I shouldn't have, I have everything going for me etc etc. I guess I'm just feeling anxious....
11/02/2008 @ 16:56 tracya said:

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i feel the same way...and as mystified as you sound...people would say i have everything but i am constantly fighting back tears....
group hug anyone???
11/02/2008 @ 17:07 fuzzy said:

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I just wish I knew what to do about it....
a group hug would be nice :o)
11/02/2008 @ 17:18 roze said:

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I would love a group hug - and bring lots of energy and warmth to it - i seem to be brimming with lots of good stuff at the moment so very happy to share it as i sure know what it feels like to be on the other side. Fuzzy and tracya - a couple of things each that you ARE feeling good about yourselves now? But first - arms opening wide - and ((((((((((((((((((HUG))))))))))))))))
11/02/2008 @ 17:22 tracya said:

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are you usually pretty independent??? if so, i would say it's okay to be needy at times...something must be going on. does your BF comment on your behavior? have you mentioned it?
i'm sure it will pass...if it's more than a temp situation... what do you suppose is making you anxious???
11/02/2008 @ 17:26 tracya said:

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thanks roze!!!
{{big smile}}
11/02/2008 @ 17:29 fuzzy said:

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I'm really lucky in that he is very understanding and I can talk to him about pretty much anything. He hasn't really said anything about it to be honest but he knows how I'm feeling....I think maybe I'm just feeling uncertain about my life. I feel bad for him though beacuse I'm so introverted and he is such a happy out-going person and I don't want to bring him down with me!
11/02/2008 @ 20:58 el mariachi said:

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Fuzzy,
From a guys point of view, I wouldnt be to concerned, as long as you guys have an open line of communication going everything should be fine. He is probably concerned himself because im sure he just wants you to be happy.
Cheers
Glen
11/02/2008 @ 21:12 dancingmystery said:

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hello fuzzy
I'm new here if you saw my post I'm feeling very similar at the moment and I just wanted to say that I understand...sometimes it's just nice to know that you're not alone, well for me it is so here's a great big HUG for both of us *******(((((((HUG))))))))******
11/02/2008 @ 21:31 johnf said:

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Fuzzy, I feel your pain because I've been there. Anxiety and depression have their causes in the chemistry of the brain, most often caused by a situation that can be identified, but sometimes the result of a random fault that needs adjustment. Normally I would be loath to recommend the chemical route, but if you can't find an external cause for your anxiety, maybe you should talk to your doctor or alternative practitioner about it.
Having said all that, try this little mental exercise: ask yourself what is the worst thing you can reasonably imagine happening to you. Can you cope with it if it happens? Is there anybody to help you cope? You see where this is going? Change worry to concern, concern to care, care to interest...
Remember, people out here care, or we wouldn't be here.
11/02/2008 @ 21:32 fuzzy said:

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thanks everyone, I really appreciate the advice, it's nice to get things of my chest! thanks for the bloke perspective Glen that does reassure me! I just wish I wasn't so damn clingy I never used to be like this argh! where has all my confidence gone???? dancing mystery I'm also new here and thanks for the hug x
11/02/2008 @ 21:37 fuzzy said:

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Thanks johnf for your kind words, I just read your post, your advice makes sense, I have been thinking about prozac for a while but something keeps stopping me and I think deep down I just don't want to go down the chemical route...I can't seem to find a source for my anxious feelings I just feel kinda jittery in my head (if that makes sense!)
12/02/2008 @ 04:06 johnf said:

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Prozac can be valuable if it suits you and as long as it's not used just to mask a reaction to a situation that can be remedied. My wife took it for a while, while it was a new thing, and it seemed to make her worse. Then a skilled counsellor found that the problem was being caused by a work situation. She changed her workplace and hey presto - no more anxiety and no need for chemicals.
Other people I have met swear by Prozac - I think in their case the anxiety state wasn't caused by an external influence but by a part of the brain not making the right connections. Talk to an expert and good luck.
12/02/2008 @ 08:48 zorro said:

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Hey Fuzzy - welcome to Big WHite Wall (and to all the newbies!)
Just a thought, but have you tried meditation and deep breathing excercises.. I really recognise the head jitters and I have learnt to combat anxiety through my breathing afer suffering a bout of panic attacks a few years ago? I also do pilates when I can feel myself getting anxious as I find just focussing on breathing and your body can really help calm things down a few notches. Might be worth a try before you go for medication?
Good luck Zxx
12/02/2008 @ 09:05 Isabella said:

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I read this book "Freedom from Fear", don't recall the author. I'm sure if you do a google search it'll pop up. It helped me a lot and saw things in a new light...
12/02/2008 @ 09:46 fuzzy said:

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thanks so much everyone, your advice is really appreciated, I recognise that I have a problem and that is affecting my life - I find it very difficult to enjoy things at the moment. I think that my anxiety is internal as I can't really remember a time when I was truly at ease, so perhaps prozac would be a good idea but I'm reluctant to go on the chemical rollercoster, I'm even considering acupuncture but it's quite expensive. Thanks again everyone xXx

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