I have been with my boyfriend for almost 2 years .We has one infant son together.I would like to get married one day.But their is some problems.He works for his mother and uncle at a family  sporting goods business .He gets no insurance,no breaks, and no 401K.His mother bribes him with lies to keep working there.That he will be running it and own it.but shes marriedto another man not his father and when she dies he will want his part.Her lies also keep my boyfriend from going to school and keep us from moving out of this small town.The career choices I want to make would be much more profitable in a bigger area.Her attitude really gets to me.She thinks she is a saint and the greatest mother.She had her first child at 15 year old.She ran around with many men.And at 18 met my boyfriends dad.And had my boyfriend and his older sister.When my boyfriend was 2.His Dad and her divorced.And she left him with the kids.So she could run around and focus on herself.She is very about her self.She thinks she can win love by buying lots of gifts at holidays.She has only seen are son a couple of times.Which is fine by me.But the lies that she tell her son and keeps him from bettering himself are not.When he was younger he hardly seen his mom at all.We he was 15 his dad died and he had to live with his mom.From then on she has tried to control his life.I try to help him see if it doesnt work out as planned then what.And to think about schooling.I have told him how much I want to move and have are own life.And he shouldnt live his life to make her happy.She isnt going to live forever.She smokes for packs of cigarettes a day.And to think about where was she when he was a kid.I love him and he is a good dad.But I want to be happy to.

some mothers-in-law have real problems with cutting the cord to their sons.

My mother-in-law have been a princess all her life- letting her parents or husband or now her sons take care of her needs - which are not modest. Never has she felt the need to give only to receive.

I think your mother-in-law have the same egocentric look upon the world and specially her son. It is easy to recommend that your husband breaks the cord but I know how deep that could be tied. I thing is to keep her in an arms length and graduately replace her influence with your own love. Do not speak ill of her to your husband so he feels he has to defend her- let her own actions speak for themselves.

If you can- it has taken me 20 years to achieve just that!