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  • 07/10/2007 @ 19:27 Muse said:
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    I was reading the article about how to get your emotionally uptight friend to open up and I was wondering what people thought of the use of alcohol?

    Not, is it the tool of the devil, but more, do people say the truth when they have had rather a lot to drink or not? In vino veritas or is that just a load of bollocks.

  • 07/10/2007 @ 19:52 roze said:
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    this concerns me. if you have a friend who finds it very difficult to be open emotionally how are they going to feel if they do say more than usual because they have had a few drinks? this could be a great way to get someone to shut themselves further away. also my experience of emotionally very closed or well-protected people, is that they do not open up more with alcohol - or tend not to get into situations - with drink or anything else -that makes them in any way vulnerable. people protect themselves for good reasons!

     

  • 08/10/2007 @ 09:06 Marmite said:
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    Alcohol can definitely help someone open up. I've only been able to help certain friends when they've had a few. It would seem it acts as a short cut, removing inhibitions that take much longer to displace through conversation only.

    Those who have opened up when a bit under the influence may regret it, depending on what they've said, but the info was probably all true. They might say 'Oh I'm sorry about coming out with all that last night' but I'm sure that they often feel relieved to have got things out in the open anyway.

  • 08/10/2007 @ 13:35 zorro said:
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    hey...

     

    Why dont you have a read of this:

    http://www.bigwhitewall.com/useful-stuff/How-to-help-someone-open-up-to-you/

     

    It offers great ways to get friends to be more open, and could save you a fortune in beer and wine

     

  • 09/10/2007 @ 08:05 Harold said:
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    Or put my mother in the room with your friends - I don't know how she did it but my friends told her *everything*, it must be because they feel they're telling a friend but it's one level away, safer or something? The biggest problem with getting people to open up is that they then have to face the fact that you've seen them vulnerable, it's safer to dump your secrets on someone and not have to be around that person again, don't you think? So maybe alcohol gives them a 'get out clause'? They can pretend, or hide behind a disinhibitor?

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